Almost every moment of his life, each person makes three key decisions that ultimately determine the quality of his life. Get on the path to positive change in your life.
If you do not appreciate what you have and are not grateful to fate for it, you will never be truly satisfied with your life. But how do you achieve balance in your life? Why strive for anything at all if the achievements at the same time plunge your life into chaos?
For four decades now I have been teaching people how to live properly - and believe me, I am proud of my client list, because among them were some of the most powerful men and women on this planet. I have worked both with US Presidents and with successful businessmen and owners of large companies.
And you know what? During this time, I realized that almost every moment of his life, each person makes three key decisions that ultimately determine the quality of his life.
And if you make these decisions unconsciously, then, most likely, the fate of most of the people living today awaits you - far from the ideal bodily, emotionally exhausted, and often poor, like church mice. But if you start making these decisions consciously, you can change your life from today.
First decision: Choose carefully what to focus on.
Every moment of your life, millions of different things compete for your attention. And you have a choice - to focus on what is happening here and now, on what determines your future, or to waste your attention on what happened in the past.
When you focus on something, you direct your energy towards it. What you focus on and how you do it determines your entire life.
What is the best thing to focus on? What do you have or what do you lack?
I'm more than sure what you think of both sides of this coin. But if you look closely at your everyday thoughts, you will realize that the lion's share of your time is spent on one of them. So which one?
If you realize that most of your time is spent thinking about what you don’t have and envying those who are more fortunate financially than you, then perhaps you should admit that you should be grateful for what you have, some of which has nothing to do with money. After all, you really should be grateful for your health, family, friends, opportunities and sanity.
By learning to appreciate what you have, you can easily create a new level of emotional stability and wealth for yourself. Try to feel this gratitude with all your mind, body, heart and soul. For this is where true joy, happiness and contentment in life lie.
Now look at your attention from the other side. What do you most often focus your attention on - what you can control, or what is beyond your control?
If you focus on things you can't control, you just add a little more stress to your life. Yes, you have control over many factors in your life, but neither you nor anyone else can control them all.
After you change this pattern of thinking in the right direction, you should move on to the next important decision. And this is…
Second solution: Try to understand what it all means.
In the end, how you feel about your life has nothing to do with what's going on around you, your financial situation, or what happened or didn't happen to you. The quality of your life depends primarily on how you feel about all this.
Most of the time you may not even be aware of the effect that your own subconscious mind has on your life, endowing this or that life event with a certain meaning.
When something happens to you that abruptly ends the usual course of your life (car accident, health problems, dismissal, and so on), do you consider this event to be the end or the beginning?
If someone comes into conflict with you, what will you learn from this - an unreasonable insult or a valuable lesson?
And if fate deals a crushing blow to you, what does it mean? Does this mean that higher powers want to punish or test you for something? Or maybe this is still an invaluable chance to become stronger?
Your life becomes what you want it to be. And along with the meaning that you give it, a whole bunch of different emotions come to you - which, in turn, change both your very life and the way you live it.
During my seminars, I always ask the question: "Do you know someone who is on antidepressants, but never got rid of depression"? And, as a rule, from 85 to 90 percent of the audience answer in the affirmative.
Have you ever wondered why? After all, after all, drugs are taken to make it better. And only antidepressants have suicidal thoughts on the list of possible side effects.
The truth is that no matter how many antidepressants a person takes, if he constantly spends his time and attention on something that he has no control over, even the use of antidepressants only briefly postpones depression. And if he also draws a conclusion from what is happening, like “life is rubbish, and life is not worth living,” then this emotional cocktail cannot be overcome by any antidepressant.
But if, as a result of what happened to him, the same person acquires a new goal for his life, a reason to live on, or a belief that everything that is done is for the better, not a single misfortune will break him, moreover it will only make him stronger.
When people break out of the trap of habitual aspirations and meanings, they begin to realize that in fact they are not limited by anything, and can make their life the way they want. A change in the object of your attention and a shift in your perception of life can change your body's biochemistry in a positive direction in just a few minutes.
So take back control of your own life, and always remember: the perception of life is equal to emotions, and emotions are equal to life. Choose consciously and wisely. Look for the bright side in any event - and you will find wealth that you did not even suspect about, wealth in its true, deep sense.
As soon as you change your perception of life in the right direction, this change creates new emotions, which, in turn, lead you to make a third important decision:
Third decision: What what to do?
The actions you take are largely colored by the emotional state you are in. If you are angry, for example, you will behave very differently than when you are cheerful or indignant.
And therefore, if you want to direct your actions in a certain direction, the easiest way to achieve this is to choose a worthy goal for yourself, and try to change your emotions in such a way that they give you strength, and not shackle.
Moreover, for each person these emotions are individual. For one person, anger blinds and forces to retreat, while for another it only gives strength and desire to move forward.
Some people express anger quietly and peacefully. Some are loud and boisterous. And someone successfully suppresses it in order to gain the upper hand in an argument with a cool head, or to get an opportunity to take revenge.
Where do we get these behaviors from? As a rule, we subconsciously copy them from the behavior of other people - those whom we respect and love.
But what about those who infuriate or anger us? Oftentimes, we consciously reject their behavior patterns simply because you don't like these people... But somehow, all too often, we find ourselves "refusing" the seemingly unworthy behavior patterns of our youth again and again. Why is this happening to us?
It would be very useful for any person to look as closely as possible at the patterns of behavior that he slips into when he is irritated, angry, sad, or feels lonely. After all, without this, he will never change them.
And now that you know about these three decisions, and know what power they have over you, you can already start looking for role models for yourself - people who made their life the way you would like see yours too. And I can tell you without a shadow of a lie - people who maintain a calm, gentle relationship with each other live much fuller and richer lives than those who constantly swear or fight. After all, only they truly know what the meaning of their lives is.
But if you have read this article, then you already know that you can achieve the same. And if you understand how differently people approach the three decisions described above, you will certainly find your own path to positive changes in your life.