The vagaries of the female orgasm

Orgasm - the highest point of sexual arousal, accompanied by voluptuous sensations. A little about the scientific physiology of the female orgasm, depending on the type of sexual response.

Nature has endowed man with the ability to experience orgasm. But at the same time, she determined different biological functions for men and women. Therefore, the sexuality of each sex has its own laws and specifics.

Orgasm, as you know, is the highest point of sexual arousal, accompanied by voluptuous sensations. In men, the ability to experience this feeling occurs even during puberty. The very first ejaculation that happens in a boy is already accompanied by an orgasm. (And henceforth, orgasm occurs with every ejaculation.)

Not so with women. The arrival of menstruation symbolizes the onset of puberty, but does not yet mean that a girl is able to experience an orgasm

Unlike a man, a woman does not have to experience an orgasm in order to procreate. The female body is “programmed”, first of all, for a long process of bearing a fetus. Therefore, many women are sexually active, often experiencing pleasant sensations, but not orgasmic. And the ability to feel acute pleasure is developed only gradually against the background of satisfactory sexual relations. And what is characteristic - a woman can begin to experience an orgasm completely "atypical", unlike a man's or even an orgasm in other women. Therefore, it is impossible to say exactly what the female orgasm should be and what its signs are - there are too many options for sensations.

Experts distinguish between two unifying moments of the female orgasm: physiological and emotional.

Physiological characteristics: abundant vaginal moisture, blood flow to the outer third of the vagina, rhythmic contractions of the muscles of the vaginal inlet and perineum.

Also physiological manifestations may include reddening of the skin and profuse sweating, a pleasant sensation in the clitoris, extending to the entire lower abdomen. All these phenomena are the result of the work of the nervous system, especially its autonomic department, which is responsible for the independent work of internal organs, glands, blood vessels, etc.

Emotional characteristic. Orgaistic emotions are extremely diverse. They can be very strong, ecstatic, or even softer. Sometimes unpleasant. Moreover, these sensations can differ even in one woman at different periods of life and phases of the menstrual cycle. They also depend on such psychological factors as mood and attitude towards a partner, perception of the environment and attitude to sexual intercourse as such.

In order for a woman to reach orgasm, she must experience sexual arousal and pleasurable sensations during intercourse. The path to orgasm is the process of awakening her sensuality, in which the erogenous zones are affected with the accumulation of pleasant sexual sensations.

In women, erogenous zones of the first

and second

order are distinguished:

1. Ears, neck, area between the shoulder blades, lower abdomen, mammary glands, inner thighs - exposure to them, as a rule, does not lead to orgasm, but increases arousal.

2. The genital area: the labia, the entrance to the vagina, the clitoris - it is due to the impact on them that the woman experiences the actual orgasm. However, without prior preparation - games and caresses - such an impact can not only not cause passion, but simply be unpleasant or painful.

Frigidity and anorgasmia

Frigidity is called female sexual coldness, sexual unresponsiveness. A frigid woman does not experience sexual desire and erotic sensations, does not show signs of arousal during caresses, and does not feel sexual pleasure. In fact, she is not at all interested in the sexual aspects of life. But truly frigid women are extremely few. In everyday life, this term is often used for other purposes, without distinguishing between frigidity and sexual dysfunction.

Such a sexual disorder in a woman as anorgasmia means a problem with achieving orgasm. But this does not mean that a woman is cold. She is able to periodically experience sexual desire and various erotic experiences, just her sensations do not reach the level at which there is a more powerful feeling of orgasm in its intensity.

By the way, you should not think that a woman must have an orgasm with every sexual intercourse. If, at the age of mature sexuality, she feels an orgasm only half the time, this is quite normal from a medical point of view, and there is absolutely no reason to worry. But if a woman has never experienced an orgasm in a year of regular sexual activity, this is a sufficient reason for consulting a specialist.

Causes of anorgasmia

Absolute anorgasmia. A situation where there is no orgasm under any circumstances - neither during sexual intercourse, nor during petting, nor during masturbation. Part of the reason may be improper sexual stimulation. In principle, in a woman, almost any part of the body can turn out to be an erogenous zone, and in order to awaken sensuality, her partner needs to find exactly the one that responds to caresses, even if she is quite typical.

But it also happens that a woman unconsciously suppresses her orgasmic reflex. It is necessary to deal with the psychological motives of such an unconscious prohibition with a specialist - they are very individual.

Anorgasmia during intercourse. It is not uncommon for a woman to experience an orgasm, for example, while masturbating, and not experience it in bed with a partner. Usually the cause of this phenomenon is the psychological problems of a woman in a relationship with a partner. Or, for example, this is due to the fact that a woman gets used to a special masturbation technique that a man cannot reproduce.

Actually, if both partners are satisfied that a woman reaches orgasm only with a certain stimulation, this is considered the norm. However, if one of the partners thinks this is wrong, or if a woman who has regular sex with a partner experiences orgasm only during self-masturbation (does not experience it when the partner is stimulating), the couple should contact a sexologist.

It is believed that excitable women can achieve orgasm during actual intercourse. Others require more intense, direct clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm.

But the main condition for the female orgasm is not even stimulation as such. For a woman, it is important, first of all, the feeling of contact, closeness, mutual merging with another person. Just mechanical stimulation or monotonous frictions may not cause orgasmic sensations at all.

Myths about the female orgasm

— In order for a woman to experience an orgasm, sexual intercourse must be long. In fact, for most sexually sensual women, 2 to 4 minutes of intercourse is preferable. If the partner is characterized by a clitoral type of sexual response, then even very long frictions will not bring her to orgasm without additional stimulation.

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