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Rules of etiquette for men and good manners

No matter how much modern society differs from the society of the last century, it still has a whole set of rules of etiquette. Moreover, the standards relating to ladies, according to this charter, are very different from men's. Today I will tell you in more detail what a cultural representative of the stronger sex should be like, according to the modern rules of good manners.

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1. On the street

Let me start with behavior outside the home. After all, it is there that you are surrounded by a large number of people who are always ready to celebrate uncivilized deeds. It is especially important to follow the rules when you are walking with a lady. Their knowledge can finally win her heart. After all, what girl at least once in her life has not dreamed of a noble prince next to her. Here are the rules of etiquette and good manners that are expected from a gentleman:

When walking, always keep to the left side of your companion. The only exceptions are those liable for military service who are currently in the service. This is done so that a man can always salute when meeting with a senior in rank. Original, isn't it?

Do not smoke in front of a girl without her permission. Firstly, she may simply not tolerate the aroma of tobacco. Secondly, do not forget about the possibility of an allergic reaction. And tobacco smoke is very quickly absorbed into the hair and clothes. Not every woman wants to smell like a public ashtray afterwards. A very reasonable rule, I think.

You need to walk very carefully in ice. If your companion suddenly slipped, be sure to delicately hold her by the elbow or hand. But it is undesirable to touch the waist in such a situation. Moreover, this rule in European countries and the United States has one feature. There, a woman must initially make it clear whether she wants such insurance from a man. If a gentleman picks up his beloved without permission, he can be banally sued for harassment. Such are the customs abroad. It's good that our girls prefer not to break their heads on the ice, but still entrust their safety to a companion. A similar rule applies in the case when a lady accidentally stumbled on the street.

If you and your girlfriend went somewhere by car, then in this case you should also learn a couple of simple manipulations. The girl gets into the car first. Moreover, you need to first open the door in front of her and give a hand so that it is convenient for her to climb onto the seat. Are you playing the role of a driver? In this case, offer a companion to stay nearby. But the man should be the first to leave the car. He walks around the car, opens the door for the girl and offers his hand for convenience. By the way, make sure that the lady does not have to slam the door of your "swallow" on her own. This is not appropriate.

Take care of your girlfriend and be sure to help her carry bags or any other burden. But an elegant ladies' reticule is completely optional. So you don't have to worry about looking stupid. If a girl needs to carry voluminous outerwear in her hands, then the rule will be to take this responsibility upon herself. The exceptions are coats and short light fur coats. But if your companion suddenly becomes ill, you must completely free her hands.

Restrain your broad Russian nature as much as possible. Foul language is prohibited. In principle, this is not very pleasant to listen to, and even in the presence of a girl, one should definitely limit oneself to a more adequate vocabulary.

If you have a meeting with a lady, be sure to arrive a little early. Being late in itself is an uncultured act, and in the presence of a girl, this will put her in an awkward position. If you understand that you will still be late, be sure to warn your companion as early as possible.

As you can see, the rules of etiquette for men and good manners are not so difficult. But the observance of all the conditions I have described above will present you to the environment in the best possible light. And you will definitely impress your girlfriend as a very gallant and caring person.

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2. Indoors

Looks like the outdoors is done. It's time to delve into the rules related to public places. This also applies to the family home. You need to be gallant not only when other people are looking at you. Here are the rules of good manners for true gentlemen:

A woman must enter any room first. At the same time, the man should open the door in front of her and hold it until the lady goes inside. Moreover, a gallant man will do this for any girl, even a stranger. Don't open the door too early. Such behavior will put the companion in an awkward position while she is walking towards the entrance.

Inside the room, you must first help the girl to undress. After that, you should undress yourself. When leaving, hold outer clothing by the shoulders while the companion puts it on. It will be right to move the coat or fur coat yourself, so that the girl does not have to awkwardly squat to get into the sleeves.

The woman sits down first. According to the basic rules of good manners, she needs to move her chair. When the lady gets up from the table, all the men get up. No one goes down until this is done by all the fair sex in the company.

When you get on the elevator, go first. But on the way back, let the lady go ahead.

Do not forget about the help in the form of an outstretched open palm, if all body movements are not easy for your companion. In particular, this applies to pregnant women or those with health problems.

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beautiful tricks. After all, the rules of etiquette for men and good manners will certainly receive a worthy assessment from the environment. Here's a little guide for you:

If you're having a conversation with someone, don't cross your arms over your chest while talking. In a cultural society, such a gesture is considered a manifestation of disrespect for the interlocutor.

When a meeting is scheduled at a restaurant, the person who will then pay the bill should enter first. But if you came in a pair with a lady, let her go ahead. It is believed that the financial issue will be a priori for a man.

According to the established rules of etiquette, it is the one who initiates the meeting who pays the bill. It would be nice, of course, for your other friends to also be aware of this feature.


If you go out with a girl, watch the topics you bring up in front of her. The gentleman should not discuss frank questions, as well as moments of an intimate nature in the circle of partners or comrades in the presence of a woman.

Alas, but you cannot find yourself a chair and attach a fifth point until one of the ladies has sat down. So take care of the convenience of the fair sex first.

It is not appropriate for a man to speak too loudly, interrupt or actively gesticulate in the process of communication. Keep your emotions under control and do not wave your arms, even when it comes to controversial points.

Never interrupt anyone - this is a sign of bad taste. First you need to listen to your opponent, and only then express your own opinion. It is also ugly to keep your hands in your pockets when you are having a conversation.

Do not point your fingers at people, even if everyone around you is familiar. Try to keep a distance with others (very important for the current day) and not violate the personal space of the interlocutor.

Let everyone around think that you were raised by at least gentlemen of blue blood. Although, in fact, it's just banal decency and respect for strangers. Nothing more. Believe me, even if the environment does not particularly meet these requests, such behavior will set you apart from the rest of the guys. So get ready for interested female looks and open displays of sympathy.

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4. At the table

There is actually a huge pile of pitfalls lurking here. Eating beautifully is an art. What if tomorrow you receive an invitation to dinner with the President, and you don’t even know how to put a piece in your mouth? Let's break it down point by point:

It doesn't matter if you know the lady at the table next to you. Rules of ethics for men and good manners oblige to look after her. Pour drinks into your neighbor's glass, make sure that the plate is not empty. If the girl wants to leave the event, you need to get up, move your chair and help the woman out.

Do not reach across the table for dishes. Ask other guests to pass on what you need.

If you are at a high-level event, find out in advance what will be on the evening's menu. In such places, a large variety of cutlery is usually served. To understand what exactly and why they brought you, take the trouble to first study the theory.

Use napkins, eat slowly and in small portions. Put on a plate just enough to master in one sitting. Do not soak the remaining sauce on the dish with bread. I'm sorry, but that's not exactly what decent society does. Even if your favorite salad was served. Hold on boy, my thoughts are with you.

Yes, eating with appetite and looking like a cultured person is not easy. Remember how modern youth behaves in the process of snacking. Agree that such manners will not always be appropriate in an expensive restaurant? So try to control yourself, otherwise it will be embarrassing to go to McDonald's.

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5. Business culture

Let's talk about business meetings and communication at work. It really has its own atmosphere. Those rules that are suitable for home and cafes will not be relevant here. So, a little about corporate manners:

Take care of high-quality and unobtrusive perfume. Remember that we are talking about a closed space. Not everyone will be pleased to feel your persistent fragrance a few meters away. Opt for soft and calm fragrances with woody notes. And don't overdo it with the application. It is impossible to pour perfume over like water - you will scare people away.

If you enter the elevator at the same time as the leader, then he must be let in first. Don't be shy to go after that. It is not necessary to wait for another elevator.

It is also necessary to greet in the office in accordance with the positions of the people around. Start at the highest level, gradually moving to the rest of your colleagues and subordinates. The greeting should be a short and firm handshake. But don't overdo it with force. A CEO's fractured wrist is fraught with consequences.

Be sure to get business cards. Corporate culture involves constant acquaintance with new partners. So that they do not look for a piece of paper and a pen to write down your contact details, hand them a neat card, where everything you need will already be stated in simple and accessible language. There will be no trust in a representative of a large company without this accessory. Pay attention to the design of your business card. When ordering, do not focus on monograms and intricate drawings. Everything should be simple and concise.

If you have a business meeting, be sure to start preparing for it in advance. Make a rough plan and a list of issues that need to be discussed first. Think over all possible answers of the opponent, be ready for various objections from his side. If you do not jump from one topic to another, but conduct a dialogue clearly, logically and measuredly, you will end up with more respect.

Female colleagues are the same girls as everywhere else. Don't forget to hold the door for them and help with weights. Moreover, the age, physique and appearance of the lady do not matter. Treat with the same respect both the secretary Lenochka and the cleaner Valentina Petrovna.

During the meeting, make sure that the mobile phone is turned off. Ideally, vibration would also be good to remove, since its buzz will distract from the conversation. If the call is very important, apologize to the interlocutor and go out. Do not engage in dialogue in the presence of business partners.

A job is a place where sometimes an entire career depends on your behavior and knowledge of generally accepted rules of etiquette. Try not to screw up in front of management so that professional skills receive a sober assessment.

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6. Appearance

As you know, people meet by clothes. No matter how smart and charming you are, the first impression still directly depends on the style of clothing and the success of the chosen image. Let's talk a little about the style of a well-mannered man:

Don't go after brands. A branded thing may not always correctly sit on the figure. In this case, the label will not pay much attention.

The rules of etiquette for men and good manners say that it is the whole image that matters. Individual elements are not so critical. Therefore, try to pick up all the pieces of clothing so that they all fit together.

Don't experiment with the color palette. This could end in complete failure. Limit yourself to a one-color outfit. A tie can be used as a noticeable spot. But leave the shirts alone. There should not be any bright patterns or prints. The best option is a piece of fabric slightly lighter than the rest of the suit. This applies specifically to the business style. For the street, a standard casual is quite suitable.

Pay attention to accessories. A good watch is especially important for a man. But they shouldn't be too flashy. To boast of high cost is a bad form.

You can wear cufflinks and a tie clip under your suit. Accessories made of precious metal are allowed. But it is better to give preference to white jewelry. They won't stand out as much. But it is better to remove massive chains and crosses altogether or completely hide them under clothes. Otherwise, you will look like a gypsy baron.

If you are going to attend an event with a charming companion, coordinate the outfit with her in advance. Your images should be combined and overlap in detail. Also check out the dress code for the meeting. Evening dresses are appropriate not everywhere.

Don't try to cover up gray hair or bald patches. Such behavior is a sign of self-doubt and the presence of complexes. And it all looks really funny. Respect your age and accept it as it is.

Let's talk about shoes. At a minimum, it should be perfectly clean and polished. Sports models are best left for jogging and walking in the park. Wear patent leather shoes only for special occasions. In everyday life, they look frankly vulgar. The classic option is considered to be boots made of leather or suede. But they must be in tune with the rest of the clothes.

The jacket is ideally chosen to be slightly fitted. This will make your figure more toned. But first, take a sober look at your own physique. If you can’t call yourself slim, then we’ll hide the belly with a straight-cut jacket. It should sit tight, but not diverge in the button area. Otherwise, you run the risk of being associated with the notorious Carlson.

Do not attend an event unshaven. This is a violation of all rules of etiquette. If you are the owner of a stylish beard and mustache, then first put them in order. Such an element of the image is quite acceptable.

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Well, that's the end of my recommendations regarding good manners for a modern man. I hope that you have mastered them all and now you will shine with new knowledge both at home and at work. I am sure that from now on, girls will pay more attention to you and show their interest. Today, gentlemen are in demand more than ever.