Mistakes to avoid when speaking. Some people make a lot of mistakes in normal conversation. How to avoid making classic mistakes and look good when communicating with people.
The first mistake. Boasting
Some people think that by showing off a cool new car or a big salary, they can impress others. This is partly true. They will impress others as… fools. Smart people will find them empty and uninteresting. When someone consciously tries to elevate himself, it immediately catches the eye, and, as a rule, such efforts cause the exact opposite effect.
Second error. Lots of advice
All people like to be smart and give “good” advice. There is nothing more surprising in this. When someone tells you about their problems, the first thing that comes to mind is to support, express their point of view, share their experience, but sometimes a person just needs to speak out. Learn to refrain from commenting in situations where you feel they might be unnecessary. Usually people themselves ask for advice if they really need it. In this case, try not to overdo it. A too active adviser from the outside may seem like a self-centered nerd who is sure that he knows the answers to all questions. Those who are faced with a real problem, such know-it-alls are annoying.
The third mistake. “But I… and I… and I…”
There are people who start discussing only one topic - themselves loved ones. And any conversation is turned into a monologue to himself. It's annoying. And talking to such a person becomes reluctant.
The fourth mistake. Gossip
Decided to discuss with a friend the ugly outfit of the lady opposite, the dirty hair of a mutual friend, or the latest affair of your neighbor? In this case, it is not surprising if this will be your last conversation with this person. Gossiping and discussing others is an amateur activity.
Of course, such conversations give a feeling of superiority over others, but at the same time, they include a lot of negative points. They are boring, useless and leave a nasty aftertaste. In addition, if you are happy to discuss others, your interlocutor can easily think that as soon as he moves away, how you will take over him - this will kill the desire to communicate with you.
Fifth mistake. Fear of making a mistake
One of the main mistakes in conversation is the constant fear of making a mistake. When a person is very focused on making a good impression of a pleasant interlocutor, it immediately catches the eye - he picks up every word, and his thoughts are focused somewhere deep inside, and not on the dialogue itself. You need to be simpler, be who you are. Think what you say and say what you think.
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