How to talk about sex, in sex and sexy.

How to talk about sex, in sex and sexually. Talking before sex, during sex and after sex.

They didn't even notice how the sex started. Valery Saltykov.

Love, or rather sex, is best proved in practice, in the sense on the body, which still needs to be reached, which for many users is an unusually long process. How to communicate in such a way that goosebumps run through the partner’s body, and blood flows go where they should, creating an unusual erection even in those organs that did not dream of sexual arousal even in the worst erotic-pornographic dream. That's what I would not say there about the primary importance of our genitals with you, the power of words in this topic is more important.

Yes, but what did you think - in sex, too, there are rules of conduct and rules of communication, and whoever neglects them, always weaves in outsiders, making a bunch of sores in his life, and even specific spreading horns. Take my word for it: those who do not have the skills of sexual communication, in the end, lose their partner, and it does not matter on whose side the vacuum arises. By default, women are used to the fact that everything related to sex should be controlled by a man, so they keep quiet on the sidelines until a talkative passion that appears on the horizon takes their male by the bridle to her bed, and then all that remains is to be indignant. The same applies to men. Any lady is imbued with confidence in the gentleman only when he fulfills the necessary verbal minimum, characteristic of her understanding of the present sexual moment and in every possible way adapting to it. All information on this subject is written in the gene bins of young ladies from birth, which is why they are waiting for that particular prince or hunchback who knows the cherished word or words.

Scientists have been struggling with the problem for many centuries, they say, what in the Universe was primary and what was secondary, and so I solved this dilemma, and without putting on the mantle of a scientific degree at all: in the beginning there was the WORD. Yes, the Lord God directly said: "Let there be earthly and heavenly firmaments...". Believe me, there was nothing yet, but the word was, even if He exchanged them with himself. That is why everything in this life is determined by words: their intonation, rhythm, literacy, expressiveness, accent, melodiousness, coloring, depth... A word can praise, scold, express this or that thought... you can even send it to hell, you can. And also to bewitch or disenchant, to convey feelings and emotions, positive and negative - everything is possible, even the impossible, and this is a fact.

How the sex word works.

When it comes to sex, many simply have tongues sticking to the roof of their mouths or sinking down, and paint covering the skin like pigmentation in chameleons. I agree, for so many years of sexual isolation, we have become somewhat insecure in conversations on intimate topics, but in fact, we are still ahead of the rest, why not rehabilitate here? You know how many words an average Slavic couple utters during sexual intercourse - at most two or three dozen, starting with the prelude and ending with the coda. And do not confuse the imitation of sex with its reality. It is in porn that you can recite poetry right during coitus, and in duty sex you can imitate porn, when it comes to simple but real sex, people are silent like fish, although they also speak their own fish. But in vain, ladies and gentlemen, by the way, it is with the help of words about sex and sexual words in intima that you can do all the hard work, leaving in the end all the most high. To make a partner aroused long before direct sexual contact, it is necessary to speak correctly and say the right words.

Have you ever heard someone say that he or she has a sexy voice? Have you thought about what that could mean? You see, you didn't care, because you always thought that as soon as you grow up to the right age, everything will immediately appear by itself - nothing like that. I thought so too, and it's good that I realized my mistake early. If desired, a man or a woman can verbally excite each other so that the process of genital copulation itself will begin to be measured in seconds. In some cases, even touches are not required, but only smoothly sounding, carefully selected and reproduced sets of words. Have you ever been told pain? Not? In short, the principles of these very conspiracies-slander are the same: the brain perceives not so much the meaning of what was said as the melody and coloring of speech. I checked this case in the laboratory conditions of the bedroom, I even compiled special exercises, you can try it yourself at your leisure. Well, you know how songwriters can be - that's right - disgusting and cool. This is what voice control is all about.

I myself learned the sexual variations of the voice from old foreign films when I learned the language, at the same time adopting the manner of speaking of local heroes. It is she who, for some reason, as well as possible, falls on female psychology (below I will give several sets of phrases for both sexes). So, if you cross my achievements with their pronunciation, any beauty will not resist and even calmly does not lie down from the lust that has appeared. I just warn you right away: yelling words from the other side of the street will not help the cause, or even interfere. You need the right attitude, setting, sympathy - I mean, one correct verbal attack will not be enough if it's not phone sex.

Basic postulates in intimate conversations.

People communicate on different topics, and depending on what meaning they put into their speech, it turns out to be exactly the code that provokes responses. That is, the phrase “how about having sex” can be pronounced in thirteen different ways, and if after the first one you can easily get in the face, then the last one can turn into sexual intercourse without leaving the cash register. Most men and women in relation to sexual conversations are still playing spies-intelligence - they are silent, but even if they use ear tactics, then in a very primitive way, and all because there has never been any school of correct sexual behavior, not to mention word formation, especially with us.

Basic postulates:

- any conversations on sexual topics should be started exclusively in the mood;

- one should never talk about sex in vain, and even in jokes it is required to put a double meaning in order not to vulgarize such an important action in the life of every person with laughter;

— you can’t talk about sex without respect and an internal understanding of the topic you are talking about, since this is the only way to present its significance and convey the true meaning to your opponent without vulgarization;

- sex is inherently a noble cause, and regardless of the forms of its implementation, therefore, even in the most vulgar, according to society, words, it is required to place the right accents;

- when talking about sex and during it, one should never ask - this humiliates the one who asks, and demand - this humiliates both. You should simply offer yourself as a sexual partner, as a qualified specialist offers his services;

- there is no priority in talking about sex and during it, therefore both men and women have the right to start the conversation first. If this is not vulgar slang, designed to hide shyness, but a dialogue of partners who are quite mature for coitus, everything will look chiki - chiki, in the sense of civilized and will lead to the necessary consequences without fail;

- as soon as it comes to sex, regardless of the time and place of action, coquetry and flirting should be included, even if the conversation is idle and does not lead to intimacy. This is the only way to preserve the connection formed in childhood between thoughts, conversations, visual images and the degree of arousal, which in sex are the three elephants on which it rests;

- if you veiled (and not really) put phallic and vaginal meaning into everyday speech, beating these thoughts with your voice, you can bring yourself to sexual semi-readiness long before the speech about intimacy goes openly. I agree, you can pass for a preoccupied pervert, but impotence and frigidity are impotence and frigidity, and two orgasms at a time are two orgasms;

- any conversation on a sexual topic should be supported by facial expressions, gestures, body movements... and the speaker must be absolutely sure that their visualization in front of a partner suits him. You can even train in front of a mirror, and the sooner you start it, the less sexual problems you will have in the future;

- never make an effort on yourself choosing the right words - either memorize them, or force your heart and brain to reproduce them at every need;

- the attitude of women and men to conversations during sex is different, so you need to understand any inconsistencies and reject them personally.

Some nuances for men.

There are no leaders in sex and it is not at all necessary for a man to become one, especially if there are no skills, and no desire either. It looks not so much caricature as disgusting, so it will not cause anything but disgust in the opposite sex. When I watch modern Russian cinema, where as actors, at best, you can meet the director's friends who are trying to outplay his close and distant relatives, I am very worried about the jury members. At the next film festival, they will be forced to come up with a nomination in which the film will get something out of a sense of political correctness, and this is not an easy job. These actors do not play in films out of fear, and they never had the conscience to recognize a less prestigious profession for themselves - they stupidly earn a fee

Having the skills to conduct a sexual conversation, even the most mediocre lover is only strongly excite the partner, but also provoke her responses, which will easily complement his failure in sex. When I scratch my girl's back, which should be a necessary bedtime ritual for every sexy couple, I begin to whisper various "vile things" in her ear, and in all seriousness. I already have her this way and that, and even like no one else has ever... All this is on the resonator (this is when the head is slightly forward, the chin rises a little and sounds are extracted from the depths of the chest)... You should have seen what goosebumps it is covered with - horror. And the coolest thing about these situations is the consequences. If a woman wants sex, after such a “conversation” she immediately provokes it herself, and reaches orgasm in the shortest possible time, because by the power of her imagination, under my roulades, she has already brought herself to borderline excitement more than once. But even if for some reason she decided to abstain that day, the chatter lulls her like nothing else. At the same time, as practice shows, she dreams of exclusively erotic content, often accompanied by the same orgasmic discharge.

What did you think, sexual chatter or something - yes, this is light hypnosis, that's what it is. Do you want me to reveal a great secret? Only no one else. Do you give the word men? And don't laugh, but a character from a bourgeois cartoon about a cat who was chasing a vile little mouse serves as a role model for a sexy voice. Find all the episodes where in an exaggerated form the cat tries to pick up the cat, turn off the Russian translation and switch over the overtones of the voiceover, even if it takes a lot of time. See how he varies his voice to attract her attention: how he raises and lowers the timbre, increases and decreases the pauses between words, how he increases and decreases, moving to a half-whisper to make the accent better. This is not a whim of the director, this is an ingenious attempt by the actor to exaggerate male hypersexuality, and he did it in the best possible way.

Some nuances for women.

Women rarely talk about sex in the presence of men, although I know for sure what they talk about in their absence, let alone what they think... That's why I will say right away: in all my troubles with regards to sexual dissatisfaction and you yourself are to blame for the illnesses that follow. Do not be offended by such categoricalness, but dear ladies, as soon as you stop being guided by unknown who invented installations, as if only a man has duties in intimacy, wars, plague, unemployment, hunger and even homosexuality will immediately disappear on earth. And do not make the eyes round, the stroke emphasizes them better than anywhere else - this is the absolute truth.

Yesterday was a bad day. For some reason, everything fell out of hand, broke down, there was no one to unload the car, and with my sore back (pinched my sciatic nerve while carrying a brick), I did this noble, but hard work, and then I also repaired the light, changed the gaskets in the water taps, my household is a building per square kilometer, - in short, I got a little tired. And you know what reanimated me - a sexual conversation, a massage and a blowjob of one cool girl, whom I brought up on my own concepts of sexual partnership. And think about it, if she, like all those dissatisfied with life, lay down that evening to wait for her portion of caresses, and then said that all men are selfish and bastards.

I don't know why most women think that men don't get tired by lying down in front of the telly after work - it's not. I agree that women also work and no less than many lazy ones, but cooking dinner or loading laundry into a washing machine is no more a feat than fixing a tap or, say, a car in which the same woman likes to drive so much. If you replace a wheel, for example, you can equate it in terms of the number of kilocalories spent to preparing breakfast, lunch and dinner, but its beading... is already equivalent to the same, but for a week. I am not at all going to belittle the burden that the beautiful half of humanity bears, I mean that in the evening everyone comes to bed equally tired and the need for sex should concern everyone equally. We, men, do not need anything special, just to feel interested and that's it. But even if there is no strength, is it really impossible to tell that there is a desire, but they left the strength and even lie down for themselves they are not enough. Not all men are drones, they become so in the process of improper sexual relations.

Remember the anecdote: A man decided to get rid of his negligent wife and decided to fuck her to death. He fucks for a day, another, a third... A week later he returns home, and there his wife is all so dressed up, there is a bubble on the table, his favorite dumplings are on the stove... And she is in his pants from the very threshold, and whispers all sorts of obscenities in his ear... He: I didn’t understand Why such a holiday? She: Well, you treat me like a human being, so I answer the same...

Why can't two people in the same bed come to a consensus, and our numerous Duma can - right, there are not many women there.

Many women constantly demand declarations of love from their boyfriends, all kinds of expression of their feelings, which, in fact, is the normal state of affairs, but why not talk about their own fantasies in sex? Is it unfair or not according to the laws of equality? No, I'm not complaining, for myself I solved all these problems a long time ago, I'm just stating facts about which men, as a rule, are silent. But it is necessary to start building a new sexual society of the satisfied from somewhere. Here you are a reader, make an exception for your male. Become for a week in sexual matters the way you would like to see your man. Tell him without offense about your preferences in sex, tell secrets, reveal your intimate world without leaving hidden corners. And it does not matter if you have to bring him to his senses with ammonia, then he will recover, and how. What is weak? Yes, this is not for you the division of household duties and grumbling about the worthlessness of men, this is a whole science of coexistence in intimate life, which you cannot master like this for free. Not all men are equally useful and I agree with this completely and completely, but with how many women I would not go into intelligence...

they are laid down at the level of instincts. When a dog is petted, it wags its tail, when a cat purrs, I do not hint that men belong to this species, I only make it clear how instincts work. The problem here lies in the fact that few of the women are in a hurry to let them out, and when they dare after 40, the need is no longer the same. I know that not everyone has the courage to admit this, then live like a fool and envy those who have solved their problems once and for all. To trust completely and completely should not be a man, but one's own instincts, not paying attention to all the conventions that interfere with life.

The more you like a man, the more you change, and even your hair is easier to style with a hairdryer, not like the timbre of your voice and manner of speaking. So why not explain in a popular form how you would like to see, hear, feel him. There is such a thing as confession - why not use the closest person in spirit and body as the confessor? Make the freedom of sexual thoughts and words the norm of behavior with men, and you will see how your world, appearance, well-being and expectation of your man in the evening from work will change... Author: Valery Saltykov. The book “I know everything about sex. And you?"