How to react to failures? How to be a winner?

Failure can give more to further success than victory. The ability to draw conclusions and learn from defeat makes a person stronger. Your reaction to failure is more important than the defeat itself. How to respond to failures and learn to win?

It doesn't matter how talented, smart and lucky you are. There will always be things that don't go the way you plan. There are unfortunate failures, crushing defeats, regular failures or high-profile fiascos. But negative experiences and lessons can even be much more useful than constant victories.

When everything goes well, we are lucky and things are going uphill, we relax. We stop being vigilant, stop trying, and start moving less. We soar on the wave of success that we begin to think that we will always be lucky.

But luck is a fickle thing. Remember the legendary athletes, scandalous stars and huge companies that failed after a long streak of luck. Yesterday they were on top of Mount Olympus, and the next moment they were rolling head over heels from it.

Failure can be more beneficial to success than luck. Luck relaxes and lulls attention. But at this time, life and competition are not asleep. Failure gives us experience, motivation, and opportunity.

How to respond to failures in life?

"Celebrating victory is great, but it's more important to learn from defeat" Bill Gates

1. Separate failure from yourself and from your personality

Dropped by a girlfriend, couldn't get into university, lost a job, didn't pass an interview? Each of us has experienced something like this. The person immediately begins to wind himself up. That he is a loser, a loser and a weakling. That he can't do anything. A person worries about what others think. A person ceases to believe in himself and that something sensible will come out of him.

Everyone fails, and that says nothing about your personality or abilities in general. How to react to failures? Separate failure from yourself and from your personality. You had a defeat, but this does not mean that you are useless, but rather the opposite. The one who does nothing does not make mistakes and does not suffer defeat. And have you tried.

2. Learn from failure and defeat

"The real mistake is the one that taught us nothing."Inventor and founder of Ford Motor Company Henry Ford

Should you worry about failure? Rather, it is important to learn from this lesson. Think about why this all happened. But it's not about luck, it's about not being prepared enough. If you blame everything on failure, you will fail again.

Why did you fail the exam? It's not just about luck. I had to teach better in order to pass well. Why not get a relationship with someone? So he chose the wrong person and did not behave as required. Why didn't you get the job you wanted? You just need to have more knowledge, experience and skills.

There is always a reason for defeat. Think about what lessons to take away from this. What to learn, what to understand and what to do? The key to future success is understanding, understanding and correcting the causes of past failures.

Failure helps us cheer up, shake things up, and come out of our stupor. It is as if we are being doused with cold water from a bucket. Failure is the best motivation to change something for the better. Pull up your mind, roll up your sleeves and start pursuing your dreams.

3. Make a plan after failure

"Failures are signs on the road to success." British writer Clive Staples Lewis

How are you different from those who did not fail? For one beaten, two unbeaten give. They do not have the necessary experience that makes a person smarter and wiser. Failure allows us to cheer up, wake up and reconsider our strategy. Failure forces us to look for new options, to look for opportunities, to grab interesting chances. Failure gives us the opportunity not to make past mistakes that others will make.

How to respond to failures? Do not give up, but wake up, take off your rose-colored glasses and take action. Make a rough plan after failure. Write down what you want to receive and when exactly. Then make the plan more detailed and elaborated. Develop your detailed strategy for the future. What, how and when will you do to get what you want in the end.

It is often difficult to understand all the subtleties of a plan, or to form a clear plan. You shouldn't be afraid of it. Think of 5 things you would like to start doing. Which, most likely, will help and will be very helpful. Choose something that you can start immediately.

In the process of doing, there will be a greater understanding of the situation. New opportunities and chances will arise. As you move on the horizon, something that you didn’t count on and didn’t even hope for will loom. Do at least something useful and necessary. This will be the first steps of your future victory.

4. Be persistent and patient

“The greatest risk is the refusal to take risks. In a world that changes very quickly, those who take no risks are guaranteed to fail.” Mark Zuckerberg

Every time we get up after a defeat, we begin to fear misfiring again. But the fear of failure itself is even more damaging than failure itself. It's okay to be careful, considerate, and calculating. But it is bad to be a coward who is afraid to take the slightest risk. It is better to try and fail from time to time than to never dare to dream.

Be like the roly-poly who always gets up. Even if the Phoenix bird burns out, it is only to be reborn even brighter and stronger. There are always some risks, but without them, victory is impossible.

A girl on the street may refuse to meet you, but if you do not approach, you will definitely miss the one that could be the dream of your life. If you don't try to go to an interview, you'll never get a great new job. Start learning something new and try to do something important, but if you don't, you are guaranteed to lose.

How to respond to failure? With a smile, the path is even a little sad. You tried, but it didn't work. But you will come out of it stronger and more experienced. Failure is the first step to success, and achieving goals is the last. Sometimes you fail because you weren't ready to succeed yet. But next time it will be different.

When will you definitely not achieve your goal and dreams? If you stop trying, putting in effort, and taking calculated risks. Only moving forward allows you to unlock your potential. Give up or move forward? This is your life choice. Which depends only on you.