How to meet a girl in plain sight

Getting to know a girl in front of everyone can be quite difficult if you do not have some practical skills. How to meet and hook chicks in public places?

Getting to know a girl in front of everyone is quite difficult. But if you pay attention to the girl's gestures and respect her personal space, you are unlikely to be considered abnormal. Most importantly, treat others with respect and follow the instructions below.

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1. Go to a crowded place. To get to know someone, you need to go out in public. Meet girls only in public places. If you approach a girl in a dimly lit alley, at an abandoned gas station, or in an empty subway, your attempts are doomed to failure. Do not do this.

Go to a coffee shop. During the day, this place is visited by a lot of people, so you will have more opportunities to start a conversation.

Go to places that interest you, such as a comic book store, a bookstore, or a renaissance fair. There you will surely meet a girl with the same interests.

Go to a bar or club. Don't forget to follow the instructions below for meeting girls at a bar. Not every girl wants to meet you. Pay attention to body language, although the very atmosphere of such establishments is not very conducive to acquaintance.

2. Make eye contact. If you like a girl, try making eye contact before talking to her. Keep looking into her eyes as soon as you catch her eye.

If a girl keeps looking at you, this is a sure sign that she does not mind meeting you. If a girl looks at you three times, she is most likely interested in you.

Why is the gaze so powerful? Scientists hypothesize that eye contact activates the brain's pleasure center, the ventral striatum. What does this mean? Our DNA tells us that if they look at us point-blank, then this is a reason for joy!

Smile. A friendly smile is a great way to show a girl that you care about her. A good sign will be the answer with a smile for a smile, and thus she shows that she is also not averse to getting to know each other.

Once you've exchanged a few glances and smiles, start observing her gestures. This is the best way to find out if a girl likes you.

3. Watch your body language. While it is NOT easy to accurately interpret another person's body language, whether it's a girl or a guy, there are a few things that can help determine if a person is interested in dating. Respect the girl's right to be alone.

Is the girl's back turned to you? Are her arms crossed over her chest? Is she listening to music or reading a book? Does she frown? Is she deliberately turning her back on you? Although these are not entirely correct indicators, such facial expressions and gestures rather indicate that the girl wants to be alone.

Body language isn't everything. Women are taught from childhood that they must be polite no matter what happens. If you are going to meet a girl, pay attention to her reaction and response.

4. Approach the girl you are interested in. Start with common phrases. Perhaps the girl is reading the same book as you, or is wearing a T-shirt with your favorite band on it. Or maybe the bus is late, which will give you a reason to talk to her.

Leave her alone if she's not in the mood for conversation. There are many ways to determine this: the girl does not look into your eyes, answers in monosyllables, looks around and looks for an excuse to avoid continuing the conversation.

If a girl is interested, you will know it immediately: the girl looks into your eyes, smiles or moves closer. As soon as you meet a girl and realize that she is interested in you, go directly to communication.

5. Talk to the girl. The conversation will start by itself as soon as you say the first sentence, but if not, here are some ways to start a conversation.

Ask her if she made her own dress, earrings, or other accessory. You can even say something like "I couldn't help but notice that this dress matches the amazing color of your eyes perfectly." So she will feel attractive regardless of her appearance. Like all people, girls prefer to be liked not only for their appearance.

If you are in a bookstore or a comic book store, ask the girl what kind of books she likes.

Listen carefully to what she says. So you will learn more about her, and there will be an opportunity to continue the conversation. In addition, she will understand that you are interested in you as a person.

6. Make plans for the future. Make plans for future dates if she's interested in you and you're determined.

Give her your phone number or email address. This will make her feel like she is in control of the situation. You will know for sure if she likes you if she calls or texts you.

Ask her for a phone number or email address. If she refuses, leave everything as it is. After all, she doesn’t owe you anything, even if she liked talking to you.

Immediately ask her to go on a date with you. Ask her if she would like a cup of coffee. Always choose public places for spontaneous dates, because the girl should feel safe. Mentally choose a suitable coffee shop or ask the girl if she knows where you can sit quietly and drink coffee. This will let her know that she is in control of the situation.

7. Be polite. This is the most important aspect of meeting girls in public or in any other situation. If she is not interested in you, give up your idea.

Remember that different girls have different requirements for guys or lack thereof. A girl may just feel like you're not her type. But there are other girls who might be crazy about you.


Hygiene is very important. Bathe regularly, brush your teeth and ears, trim your nails, and so on.

Don't be discouraged if your original plan doesn't work. This is life, and this does not mean at all that something is wrong with you.

Try not to talk about obscure hobbies, unless it will be interesting for both of you. For example, if you both love sports, you could talk about sports teams or watch a game together on a date.

Be yourself, especially at the first meeting. After all, you don’t want to show yourself to be different from what she liked at the first meeting.

Don't be stingy. If things go well, pay for drinks, meals, or taxi rides home. If she insists she wants to pay herself, say, "I'll pay for this one and you'll buy the next one." But if she really wants to pay, don't push it. Just say you'll pay next time. Hint: this is a good excuse for the next date.

Ask your sister, mother or girlfriend for advice, because only women can give you the right advice.

Try to have both of you in the conversation. There is nothing worse than talking to a person who is focused solely on himself. Ask her what she thinks about this or that, and listen carefully to her answer. This is a sure sign that you care about her opinion and that you know how to listen.


If you are rejected in public, don't react negatively, just smile at her and walk away.

If you meet a girl who is surrounded by friends, be prepared to impress the whole company.


Don't ask a girl to smile if she doesn't. Women are constantly told this, and it does not at all encourage communication.

Don't be a fool who thinks you're an expert on female psychology. If a girl says that she is not interested, she does not try to play with you at all, she really IS NOT INTERESTED!

DO NOT meet girls in the gym. They go there for sports, not for flirting.

Source: WH