Carter Lowe Creator, entrepreneur, and self-care advocate
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How to feel happiness? Change your angry face to a happy one

Each of us has our own life, our own goals, our own problems, our own desires, our own war and our own dream. But what unites us all? Look on the street at the faces of other people. Almost always they are gloomy, sad and unhappy. Only occasionally will a smile, laughter or joy flash across one of the faces. And then clouds of sadness, puzzlement and indifference will write back. We spend most of our lives with a dissatisfied face. And you too.

As soon as a person gets out of childhood and adolescence, he becomes unhappy. Carefree laughter happens less and less, a smile occasionally illuminates the face, and you feel happiness infrequently. As the years go by, you become more and more sad, sad and unhappy. A smile becomes conditional and plastic when you meet someone and just imitate joy. Familiar?

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What happened, because in childhood everything was different and better? The grass was greener, people were kinder, the world was brighter, and we were happier. But gradually we became less and less happy and smiling. As a kid, going to a picnic or going to the circus was an adventure that made our day. Ordinary ice cream, a toy or a cartoon made us jump for joy. We squealed with happiness when our parents appeared and loved to hug our loved ones. We did not hesitate to confess our love to loved ones.

But we grew up and changed it all to sadness and a puzzled face. We don't feel happy. We are less happy about buying a new phone than buying some kind of trinket in childhood. As a child, new sneakers made us happy for a whole week or month, as soon as we put them on. But now, for the level of such happiness, we need a car or an apartment.

Happiness was devalued. To be happy and smile, we need an obvious reason. Preferably material and more. That's when we smile maybe for a second and be happy a little. And then we get sad again and frown. Why is that? Why do we tend to be unhappy?

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How to feel happiness?

We all have problems, difficulties and other not very pleasant things. We have a job, some money and a more or less comfortable life. In general, everything is fine, but for some reason we always walk around with a disgruntled face. Why? We are used to expecting something bad from life. Something is about to happen, and we are already prepared for all this. We are used to being unhappy and prepared for the worst.

Why don't I feel happy? Habit. You are used to being unhappy. After all, good things happen in your life, even more often than bad ones. But you were happy for a second, and then you frowned again and became sad. And as a child, you would be happy all day because of some good and insignificant thing.

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We are used to being miserable and unhappy. Someone will say that there are a lot of problems and all that. But why do they prevent you from smiling and enjoying life? Everyone has problems. There is always someone who lives worse and better than you. Why complain or whine?

Is life unfair? Every second person will tell you this. He has problems, no money, no free time and everything is bad.

There are always problems in life, but only we decide how to feel. Some people walk around darker than clouds all their lives, although they have everything that is not available to many. And others are happy, although they do not have millions and all that the former have.

Happiness is re-evaluated with time and age. Many people start smiling more often in their 50s or 60s. People begin to understand the meaning of happiness and the meaning of life. We spent a lot of time on meaningless goals, the opinions of unnecessary people, useless actions and false goals.

With age, you realize that your inner state is more important, and not all this around. Change your dissatisfied face to a happy one without waiting for your pension. Stop walking around with a dissatisfied and unhappy look, as if all the problems of the world have rolled over you. It doesn't take much to be happy and smile.

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Happiness is not something that happens to us, but how we feel every day. Material goods cannot guarantee us happiness when it is closer to the spiritual world. Happiness is the ability to find new goals, new incentives and new dreams for movement.

Happiness lies in the ability to enjoy the little things and enjoy every day. Happiness is the ability to enjoy life for no particular reason. You can do anything and act spontaneously, but still be happy.

Remember the film “What Men Talk About. Continuation". At the end of the film, the hero Kamil says that we have forgotten how to be happy and do not know how to rejoice.

“I'll get out of here now. I will sit in my good and expensive car. I will go to my cozy, big apartment and I will live my very good life. With his perpetually dissatisfied face. Why am I so unhappy? What's stopping me from just enjoying life? And this, in fact, life has taught us that at any moment some kind of disgusting thing can happen. Here I am ready for this. But good things happen too. And not so rare. But for some reason we don't see it. So we took note and continue to wait for the bad. As a result, this eternal readiness for the bad does not allow us to rejoice in the good. The habit, this one, of being unhappy... unhappy. The habit of being unhappy. Bad habit. Much worse than smoking. I did smoke. Remember? For a long time. And quit. It's a shame to be unhappy. It's time to quit... Everyone has things to do, families, but this is such a life. Yes, this is not life, this is us. You have to give happiness a chance. And then maybe it will happen to us.”

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How to feel happiness? Change your angry face to a happy one. This is not a bad life, but we have forgotten how to enjoy it. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Find good things more often, as you once did in childhood. Give happiness a chance, and then it will happen to you more and more often. A smile, optimism and happiness are three pillars that will help you find yourself in life.

The habit of being unhappy is too bad to follow. There are a thousand reasons for happiness in life. Try to find them all. Get into the habit of being happy.