Carter Lowe Creator, entrepreneur, and self-care advocate
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How to be a cool kid

Everyone who has seen a cool dude wants to be no less cool and cool himself. How to have balls of steel, be cool, look cool, maintain your image and challenge the world?

You know this guy - he parks his motorcycle and fearlessly walks into a bar dressed in black leather. He unzips his jacket and exposes his tattooed arms. He puts the bill on the table, and the bartender immediately puts a glass in front of him. You catch a glimpse of this guy's reckless gaze before he looks away. You just saw a tough guy and you yourself would like to be one.

1. Be cool from the inside

1.1 Watch. Coolness is a state of mind. A cool guy will be cool even if he wears a polka dot skirt. He might not look as intimidating, but he'll still be cool. This is because being cool is a state of mind, just like nirvana, only a more daring state.

Watch movies with Clint Eastwood to get an idea of ​​how to behave and be tough and intimidating. Adopt the mannerisms that you think will suit you and add some of your own.

Read about tough guys. For example: Sun Tzu and Genghis Khan (they were Apollonian cool during the war), Winston Churchill and Orson Welles (smoked more cigars than Fidel and Raoul combined), and Daniel Day Lewis and Jeff Bridges (a prime example of a wardrobe).

1.2 Always be sure of yourself. This is 95% success. Tough guys do things with complete self-confidence and zero cowardice. If you can do this, then success is guaranteed.

Walk confidently, raise your head, straighten your shoulders (if it helps, pretend to have a long, fluttering cloak behind you) and take shorter and slower steps. Every step you take must be meaningful.

Don't depend on results. What does this mean? This means you don't care about the results. Your confidence should ensure that you will accept the refusal of one woman and the consent of another with exactly the same attitude. This is great.

1.3 Be brave. Tough guys are brave by nature. Most people associate fearlessness with coolness, whether it's self-defense, going into battle for someone, or watching a dangerous situation with peace of mind. Work to overcome your fears and feel free to stand up for what you believe in. Get out of your comfort zone and adapt to stressful situations.

1.4 Your actions should speak louder than words. A real tough guy puts meaning into his actions. The tough guy doesn't believe in talk. Anyone can say that they are an expert in interplanetary travel, but not everyone has actually done it. And which one is cool?

1.5 Destroy obstacles. Nothing should stand in your way to become a tough guy. One of the most exciting and frightening things is the destruction of obstacles in your path. It won't happen overnight, but it will definitely happen if you're cool, that's the state of your soul.

For example, if you are shy, then develop new conversational material (cover different topics, add anecdotes) that will ensure your leadership throughout the conversation. A real tough guy will always find something to say, but rarely talks.

Find ingenious solutions to problems. Here you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. The tough guy will break the hammer into small pieces (not with explosives, but with his energy). This is, of course, figurative. A cool guy will get out of problems in the smartest and at the same time easy way.

Plan ahead. The tough guy has a great balance between spontaneous and forward planning. The tough guy sees an opportunity that just arose, but develops a plan many steps ahead.

1.6 Have your own style. A real tough guy will wear whatever he wants, regardless of current trends. It is important to create your own style that will increase your self-confidence. Appearance works wonders with the image and your attitude.

Some people associate certain clothes with being cool—boots, leather, jeans—but you don't have to dress like that. You can be cool in a Hawaiian shirt and sandals too if you have that attitude.

Try to create your own whimsical style. Maybe you wear vests with pockets or just denim, even to a funeral. Whatever it is, be confident in your style. A quirky style can become legendary if it's brought to life by a tough guy.

1.7 Wear sunglasses. Sunglasses are the epitome of cool. It doesn't matter what you're wearing, if you wear sunglasses, then your look will be much more cool. This is because glasses shield you from scrutiny and create an air of self-confidence, even if in fact this is not entirely true.

1.8 Be yourself. Don't lose your essence in the pursuit of coolness. Being cool doesn't mean getting into trouble and impressing other people. It means being yourself and fighting for that right. If you associate with people who incite you to something, and you agree, then you are pandering to the desires of other people.

2. Maintain your image

2.1 Avoid uncool things at all costs. You probably have a good idea what that means. Refresh your knowledge:

Cosmopolitan Cocktail and any similar drinks. Avoid them like the plague.

Crossing your legs when you are sitting.

Manicure and pedicure. Who cares what the forums and neighbors say? Cool guys never do that kind of thing.

Musicals. It's not very cool to watch men and women in pantyhose sing something to each other on stage.

2.2 Be mysterious. Don't tell people where you're going unless it's absolutely necessary. Be mysteriously late and don't mention it. Don't tell your life story. Let people build their guesses.

2.3 Break the rules in minor but meaningful ways. Tough guys stand out from the gray mass of their individualistic nature. A tough guy is a lone wolf who is excluded from the crowd because he is too good, and who can handle even impossible situations. Cool guys only do what they want.

Ask yourself what made you act thoughtlessly and analyze why and how you do it. You may continue to stick to the current course, but this is entirely your choice. Do it more confidently than before.

2.4 Don't look for a fight, but be prepared for it. A tough guy doesn't ask for trouble, but is not afraid to stand up for himself and for others when there is no other way out or a serious challenge to respect is thrown. To keep fit, try the following:

Boxing. It's really cool. This is a one on one fight. Boxing is grueling, daring and grotesque, and perfect for the aspiring tough guy.

Fight. Wrestlers don't get the respect they deserve. Like boxers, they fight with muscle and mind, honing their bodies until they become efficient machines of ruthless force.

Rugby. It's a really rough, tough game. Players constantly break their noses and fingers, but keep going forward as if nothing happened.

2.5 Behave yourself. Do not spoil the mood of other people and do not alienate. That's the difference between a cool guy and an asshole. People respect the former and despise the latter. The most respected tough guy is a guy with a tough image, but understanding and kind.

Think of Han Solo, the scoundrel who ended up fighting the rebels. Or James Bond - tough, graceful and fearless, always ready to fight for the good of Great Britain.

Doing good deeds big and small will make you a tough guy that people will follow. Shroud your good deeds in mystery and do not boast.


Sometimes you have to slow down. You don't want to look intimidatingly cool during a job interview or when asking someone out on a date. In fact, inner tenderness is part of the tough guy image. Even Batman is vulnerable at heart.

Learn to avoid confrontations. If you find yourself in a situation where someone refuses to back down, you need to make a choice whether to back down or not. Sometimes, you can resolve the situation by talking or buying the person a beer. Refusing to back down can lead to a fight with unforeseen consequences. You must be able to fight, but you must also use this skill wisely.

You will inevitably run into people who will challenge you. Learn to defuse the situation or be prepared to stand up for yourself. There is nothing cool about a fight if you know the outcome from the start.

Coolness attracts unwanted attention. You will be interested in law enforcement. Be polite to them.

Choose enemies wisely. You cannot resist the whole world.