Lucky are those people who know from childhood what they want to do. There are few of them, but they exist: people who have a certain talent and craving for it since childhood. For most people, it's hard to find something they love. The world is so big, provides so many opportunities... And where to run?
And it also happens that they run not “somewhere”, but “from something” - from an unloved job, from colleagues who are more tired than bitter radish.
Exhausting feeling, isn't it? When you want to run away, but you don’t even know where, why, why... I want to be happy, I want to fulfill myself, but where? How? Well, let's try to figure out what you can do, what to think about in order to understand your favorite business. Put on a construction helmet and get behind the wheel of an excavator - we will delve into ourselves.
How to find something you like?
1. First you need to understand this: what you love is not necessarily what brings you income.
Yes, ideally, of course, you should love what you earn your living with. There really are such people and such professions, and it is a great luck when work gives you pleasure. But the problem is that the old children's poem lied to us: not all works are good.
There are many boring, unpleasant jobs, and many people who do it simply because they are paid. They may not hate her with all their heart every minute, they may do it well, but if they had the opportunity, they would not do it.
Sad? Yes, perhaps a little sad. But, alas, it's okay. We just live in such a world. The good news is that with such work you can live well and happily if, for example, you find something you like not in work, but in a hobby, and realize yourself there.
Think about it the other way: yes, your favorite thing may not bring you money, it may only be your hobby. It's sad, but it's also liberating, because you don't have to try to find a compromise between "I love and know how" and "brings income."
You can do what you love in your free time, the main thing is to be able to maintain the same work-life balance in order to spend favorite thing for so long that life brings you pleasure. And in this case, your favorite pastime can be... absolutely anything!
You can collect herbariums and ancient coins, you can be fond of weaving from beads or reading ladies' novels - absolutely anything, as long as it gives you pleasure.
Favorite business is not necessarily something ambitious and super profitable. It can be something small, tender, warm, cozy, calm, something that fills you with warmth, joy and happiness. Yes, it may not bring money, it may not elevate you to the first lines of the Forbes list, but it can bring happiness. And this is much more important.
2. Ask yourself: what topic can I read, listen to or talk about a lot without getting tired?
It is unlikely that the answer to this question will help you find a profitable business, because often we talk, listen, watch something completely abstracted from real life - for example, we watch a movie about the Avengers or popular science content. But it can become your hobby! For example, why not try blogging if you have something you can talk about for hours and know a lot about? Or hold master classes... And there, it’s not far from income!
3. Who inspires you?
Do you have people looking at whom you think: “damn, what a cool person he is, a real professional, an insanely interesting person, I wish I could be like that”? For me, for example, this is my teacher at the university: an amazing woman with a sense of humor, who easily and sarcastically explained the most difficult things in the history of art and philosophy. Think about what exactly you like about this person? In what ways would you like to be like him, what to learn from him? Why?
4. Put it on paper.
Make a list of professions that attract you. Then - a list of what you can do well and efficiently. And try to match one with the other. In which of the professions that attract you can these skills be applied well? Yes, these are pretty obvious questions, but when you start answering them in writing, everything becomes clearer, clearer, more logical, more obvious, and a solution comes to your mind.
5. Try new things.
How can you find something you love if none of the options already available inspire you? Find new activities! Look like master classes, lectures, excursions, quest rooms and hikes, where you have never been, try activities that you have never done. Will you suddenly like it? All of a sudden this is it?
Challenge yourself, do something that you didn’t even think that you might like, what you thought “not for me”, “I can’t do it”. Even if it doesn’t help you find your favorite thing, at least you will get new experience and, perhaps, a couple of funny stories.
6. Recall a favorite pastime from childhood or adolescence.
What did you like to do then? What did you want to become? Why didn't it work? Try again to do what you loved when you were little - maybe it will inspire you.
7. A little classic: ask yourself "what would I be doing if I wasn't getting paid?".
Perhaps the first answer would be “lay on the couch and watch Peaky Blinders.” Okay, so you're just tired, exhausted and don't want anything. It happens. And then? Now you have already laid all your sides, reviewed all the series in the world - at some point, you still want to do something. What exactly?
8. Imagine that you are old.
You have lived a long life, and now you have grown old surrounded by children and grandchildren. Or surrounded by a housekeeper and a butler in a villa on the coast in Italy, whichever you prefer.
What would you like to say nostalgically about your life? Imagine that you have grown old like this, without changing anything in your life and leading it approximately according to the same patterns that you are already following. What would you tell your grandchildren or your beloved forty cats about her? Would you like to remember her?
If not, what would you like to tell then? And how do you need to live your life, what to change in it in order to tell it the way you would like? What do you need to do throughout your life?
9. Imagine your perfect day.
Imagine: you get up at a comfortable time for you, well-rested, satisfied, healthy and happy. Lying in bed, or maybe jumping up right away and exercising. Drink coffee or tea with chamomile. Kissing your wife on the cheek, patting the Irish Setter on the head. And-and-and... You go to your favorite job.
What is this job? Where is she? Is it far to go to her, or maybe she is even at home? What are you doing over there? What do you do, who do you communicate with, who surrounds you? Imagine in all the details and try to understand what kind of work is so beautiful.
10. Imagine your ideal working conditions.
At work, we spend most of our lives, so it is very important that the conditions on it satisfy us, otherwise it is somehow completely sad. Imagine forcing a sociable person to program in the darkness of the night, without seeing anyone alive for days? Or make a complete introvert hold events? Horrible, right?
So, think about what conditions you should have at work so that you feel good. Should it be an office or homework? If an office, what kind? Strict or relaxed, like in Google? What do you do at work? Do you negotiate, lecture, maybe do calculations, or draw, or write music, or write lyrics? Or are you auditing? Are you teaching someone? What are your colleagues? Do you have subordinates, do you like to lead?
Now think about what job you could theoretically get such conditions.
11. Reverse history: imagine the worst working conditions possible.
For example, for me, this is an office where you need to travel far, communicate with people there in large numbers and work under the guidance of a boss who himself does not know what he wants, is nervous and yells at everyone. For you, it might be something else.
This will immediately cut off a number of options. For example, if you're a level 80 introvert, well, obviously you don't want to be an event host. If you can’t stand children, you can’t be an English teacher, even if you know him well. Etc.
12. Look from the outside.
Imagine that your experiences are not really yours, but the experiences of your friend or acquaintance, whom you know well. And now he tells you your own situation. What would you advise him? You can even write a message to yourself asking for advice.
Often it is after such an exercise that the brains fall into place, and looking from the outside you understand that you have actually overwhelmed yourself, the situation is not worth such experiences and is resolved much easier than you think.
13. List of occupations that you just like
Above, we compiled a list of professions that attract you and occupations that you are good at. And now I propose to make a list of activities that you just like. You may not make them perfect, they may even be difficult for you, but you like them.
Now think: why do you like it? What do you feel when you do them? Why does it fascinate you, what exactly attracts you to them?
Try to be honest with yourself. For example, I like to tell people all sorts of interesting and complex things from philosophy and art, but in simple words. I like it because a) I understand that I myself understand these complex things and feel like a competent person; b) I like to interest people in what was previously incomprehensible and uninteresting to them.
And then think about where you could realize this feeling.
14. You must have some strong qualities.
Write them down on paper if you like, or just think about what you are strong and competent in. For example, perhaps you can easily figure out new programs where others mess around for three hours. Or you are able to negotiate with anyone about anything. Or you are very charismatic and know how to be a leader. Remember where you have already shown your strengths? Where could they be shown more often?
15. Change the working conditions.
If you are looking for a job to your liking, already being a working person, perhaps you do not need to radically change the field of activity, but simply change the working conditions.
Above, we have already analyzed your strengths, favorite activities and ideal working conditions. Think about it, can you achieve this in your current job, without drastic changes? For example, to agree with the authorities on more business trips or change the position to one where you need to communicate more not with people, but with computers?
16. Ask your loved ones for advice.
Often they understand us better than we understand ourselves. But this advice should be applied with caution: only if you have healthy relationships with family and friends and, of course, their words should not be taken as a guide to action - this is just another opinion to consider.
If you are so worried about the question “how to find a job you like”, and you are tired of your main job, you may be very tired in principle, you haven’t rested or slept for a long time, and when you do this, you already the available work will seem quite acceptable.
You should not make important decisions in the state “all the physical and emotional resources of the body are close to zero” - in this state you are not able to reason objectively.
18. If nothing comes to mind, try trusting the machine.
Take a career guidance test. It is unlikely that he will become your guiding star, showing you the way to the cause of your life, but he can ask you new questions for self-reflection, correct the direction of your thought.
So, the main conclusion from all of the above, so that you feel better:
- Rest. Don't make decisions when you're exhausted on all fronts.
- Try something new. You won’t know what your soul lies in, if you don’t know this occupation in principle, you don’t know about its existence.
- Reflect. Analyze your desires, needs, opportunities. Think about what exactly you want, what conditions, what sensations from life, what brings you satisfaction. There are many different techniques for this, you read them above.
- Look from the outside, asking for advice from loved ones or acting as an unbiased adviser yourself.
- Remember that your life's work is not necessarily something profitable, you can be happy being a modest butterfly collector. The work of a lifetime can be anything, the main thing is that it brings you happiness.
Good luck and happiness!