Carter Lowe Creator, entrepreneur, and self-care advocate
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Always be true to yourself

Few of us are truly true to ourselves, following our own desires and guided by our own value system. Very often we live not at all the way we want and dream. We are not doing what makes us happy and what we planned earlier. How to be true to yourself, find your own path and follow your own dreams?

Putting your own interests at the center of life is a great luxury in life that we rarely think about. Every day we find ourselves under the pressure of society, which forces us to be what we are not. We constantly have to be someone else and do what we don't want to do at all. Familiar?

What does it mean to be true to yourself?

First of all, this is the ability to follow your goals, desires and interests. Be the master of your own happiness, not someone else's. Why should you betray yourself to please others? It doesn't matter how much criticism and condemnation will fall on your head if you know your own needs better.

But what about studies, work, obligations, rules, opinions of other people? Of course, all this takes place, but what's the point if you are unhappy and slowly fall into despair from the meaninglessness of your being? To avoid this, you need to be true to yourself. It is with loyalty to yourself that the road begins, where your own goals, passions, values, desires and dreams are located.

Always be true to yourself and your dreams. Live right now, do not put off all your dreams for later and tomorrow. Do not miss the opportunity, enjoy and have fun every day. Do not pause your goals and aspirations, as if there will be a better time someday. Take action! If your choice makes you happy, then you are doing everything right.

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1. Do not be afraid to be yourself

Afraid to show yourself true so that others do not stop loving you? We lose a lot when we trade our real self for public approval. We begin to be compressed, constrained and afraid to make a mistake. All this leads to the fact that we are like fake, cold, boring, ordinary and fake. But wearing a mask is too tiring, which takes us a lot of time and effort.

Don't be afraid to be yourself to keep your originality, uniqueness, authenticity, spontaneity and brilliance. Be true to yourself and your behavior. This will allow you to stop frantically controlling everything around, including words and actions. You can do what you want yourself, and not someone else. If people around you love you, they will love the real you.

2. Find your hobbies and desires

How can you defend your interests, tastes, hobbies and desires if you do not know them yourself? Determine what causes you increased interest and passion in your soul. Try to understand who you are, where you are going and what you want. You have all the answers inside you, but you're afraid to admit it to yourself. Stay true to yourself by saying out loud what you want out of life.

3. Love yourself

Many of our problems come from not loving ourselves enough. We are tougher, harsher and stricter on ourselves than on others. We do not forgive ourselves for mistakes and scold for the slightest mistakes. We remember the events of the past for a long time, where we screwed up or made the wrong choice.

It is important to be true to yourself, and not to rot yourself. Treat yourself softer, kinder, calmer, better. Self-abuse only undermines our condition and self-confidence. Love yourself, learn to forgive and cheer at the right time. Self-love will be a better motivation than constant reproaches.

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4. Respect your emotions

Often we ignore our emotions and desires, but do not forget about others. We care about what others think, say or feel, but we forget about ourselves. But what about you? Why do you always ignore your desires, feelings, emotions?

Treat yourself with great respect while being true to yourself. By putting yourself and your feelings first, you will feel freer. People around you will treat you better because you are true to yourself and follow your feelings. And such spontaneity is always to the liking of people.

5. Have your own tastes

Stick to your own tastes rather than trying to imitate or follow others. Musical preferences, tastes, hobbies, desires, goals. Do not be afraid to choose something of your own, guided by personal preferences. Respect your choice and taste, and do not give in to the crowd. Follow your choice and your taste.

6. Allow yourself to be imperfect

Accept all your facets, regardless of their form. Nobody in the world is perfect, even despite the constant self-development. There are things you don't like about you. Try to correct them or reduce the impact, and if it doesn’t work out, then accept it. It's part of the imperfect but real you.

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7. Do not betray yourself because of obstacles

Any path will be filled with mistakes and failures. You will face difficulties many times while you understand yourself and move towards the goal. Adversity should not stop you and force you to betray yourself. Stay true to your dreams and your path, regardless of the obstacles. Follow your choice, fight and never give up. Letting yourself down when you have almost achieved victory is a betrayal.

8. Watch yourself

Often we do not understand ourselves, and therefore act according to habitual attitudes. Watch your emotions, feelings, desires, hobbies. Notice all the things that you like and cause spiritual uplift. These tiny hints will help you get to know yourself better in order to stay true to your inner world.

9. Define life values ​​

Each of us has our own priorities and values ​​in life. What are the core values ​​that matter most? What values ​​attract and inspire? Set priorities for yourself so you don't back down or betray them.

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10. Try something new

When you feel lost in the world and lost yourself, then stop. Try to think and find something new. Go beyond your usual limits to feel new sensations and new emotions. There are many things in the world that you don't know and have never tried. There are many things that will become very important for you in the near future. Try something new, and it will become a significant part of you.

11. Look to the future more boldly

What would you like to do as you move on to a new stage of life? Where do you see yourself in a year, five or ten years? Are you following your desires or deviated from the goal? Are you acting correctly and will you reach your dream if you follow today's path? Look to the future and plan for it. Do not betray yourself and your bright future because of laziness or momentary desires.

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12. Choose freedom

Difficulty in finding your own self mixes in our insecurity and lack of loyalty to ourselves. We forbid ourselves much that is actually available. We follow patterns, taboos, boundaries and rules that are not in our best interest. We are afraid to step out of the shadows in order to be free ourselves.

Allow yourself to grow and develop regardless of the world around you. Allow yourself to be free, searching for your true self. Don't limit yourself to who others or yourself think you are. Choose the freedom to be who you want to be. You are the creator of your own happiness. Life is short to play other people's scenarios and roles.

Always be true to yourself, no matter how life throws you in different directions and does not test your strength. You are your only true ally and support, and being a renegade in such a situation is the last thing. The main thing is to be true to yourself, then you can handle it and be happy. You have a long life ahead of you, but you can fulfill yourself in it only by making efforts. Value life and value your choice. Try to have time to achieve your dreams before old age creeps up on you.